One of the most important things you can do for your health and fitness is to maintain a positive attitude. What you think and, even more importantly, what you say about your body has extreme power. Even the most detailed, well-researched weight loss plan is going to have a tough time standing up to negative thought patterns.
A few years ago I read a great quote by Oprah Winfrey that really stuck with me. It is such a powerful statement that I wanted to share it with you and discuss the importance of a healthy self image.
“Say bye-bye to feeling bad about your looks. Are you ready to stop colluding with a culture that makes so many of us feel physically inadequate? Say goodbye to your inner critic, and take this pledge to be kinder to yourself and others.”
I agree wholeheartedly with Oprah that we have actually allowed the media to make us feel inadequate. We have succumbed to unhealthy diets — and sometimes painful exercise just to “fit in.”
I believe that you were uniquely designed. Some of us are thinner than others. I also believe it is perfectly normal to exercise and eat right so you look great in a bathing suit — or obtain those “guns” to look good in a t-shirt. However, not everyone has the time or the desire to look like a model on the cover of a fitness magazine.
Interestingly enough, an unhealthy body image does not discriminate. This type of self-loathing can occur for any body size. When I was a size two, I was never satisfied with my looks. Now, I’m a size 6-8 with lots of curves and I love the way I look. Am I motivated by vanity from time to time? Sure I am. However, I am no longer a slave to it. I exercise, eat healthy, and focus on living a balanced life.
A POOR SELF-IMAGE SABOTAGES YOUR WEIGHT LOSS.
An unhealthy body image can lead to yo-yo dieting, over training, and unhealthy eating patterns. These patterns can actually cause weight gain. Yo-yo dieting and over training can actually cause your metabolism to slow down. Being unhappy with your body can cause binge eating which will destroy your hard work. At this point, guilt can set in which may lead to depression and often times more binging.
What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror? Years ago a fellow fitness coach used the phrase “watch your words, your body’s listening!” That forever stuck with me. When you speak negatively about yourself, your subconscious accepts the information as truth.
And, since the brain “fights to be right,” your subconscious will automatically want to carry out what you said about yourself. If you say “I have a big gut,” then your brain will agree. You will do what it takes to maintain that “big gut.” This is not just ooky-spooky hocus pocus. This has been proven by neurologists.
THREE WAYS TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN A HEALTHY BODY IMAGE
1) Discover what you want. Take time to write what you want your healthy body to look like — not how the media says you should look. Research what it would take to accomplish these goals. Then decide if your goals are realistic and mirror the life you desire. Not everyone wants to be at the gym five days a week.
Once you have a reasonable set of health and fitness goals, ignore the outside chatter. There will always be some new diet or pill, a well-meaning friend, and Lord knows the magazines waiting to tell you that your plan is not ambitious enough. Or, that their way is better. My favorite is the person posing and asking “don’t you want to look like me?”
Now, I’m not saying to be closed-minded on a better way of doing things. I’m saying you should always question if a health or fitness idea fits into your life and values.
2) Speak Success. Tell your body what you want, not what you don’t want. When you look in the mirror, use phrases like “I am losing weight,” or “I have a flat stomach.” In the beginning this can be tough. You tend to think “you are lying.” However, you are not. In my favorite success book, The Bible, it says “speak as if it is already.” This is called faith, my friend! You are believing you can accomplish your goals.
Negative thoughts will enter your mind. That’s normal. You’re human. Just don’t let them leave your lips. Replace each negative thought with a positive statement. If that’s tough in the beginning, use one of my favorite personal quotes. If you don’t have anything nice to say about yourself, don’t say anything at all. You wouldn’t say something that mean to a friend so, why say it to yourself?
Leave notes around the house as reminders to speak positively about yourself. This will help you build the mental muscles you will need to make success talk a habit.
3) Birds of a feather flock together. Pay attention to how your friends talk about their own bodies. Do they have a healthy self-image, or do they tend to put themselves or others down? Now I’m not suggesting you dump all your friends. Sometimes we need to examine if a relationship is healthy for us or not. If you notice friends putting themselves down, take the opportunity to respond with positive attributes you can point out about them. This practice will help you do the same for yourself. Oftentimes your positive behavior will rub off on others and the conversation begins to change whenever you are with them. And, you may discover people just can’t seem to get enough of you.
A healthy self-image is critical to losing weight and maintaining it without having to be a slave to dieting. This is powerful, my friend. Take it seriously.
To your success!
Jennifer
P.S. Have a body image story you’d like to share? Please post it below. I’d love to hear from you!