Category: Diets Fail

Do You Know What’s Motivating You?

Jennifer Ledford Facebook Live Video - What Is Motivating You?

Desire, it’s what drives us to achieve worthy goals like being healthy and fit.

One of the most important questions I ask a client during a consultation is “what’s motivating you to exercise or change your eating habits?”  Based on my own personal fitness journey and my 27+ plus year experience coaching others I can honestly share with you that there are some really good reasons to want to lose weight and then there are some not so good reasons.

Too often people choose to lose weight for the wrong reasons which can lead to failure and even harm them physically and emotionally.  This breaks my heart because it DOES NOT have to be this way. 

If you desire to lose weight or you simply want to maintain your current weight, you should do it for your own health and happiness reasons, not because you think it will help you achieve unrealistic goals that are oftentimes set for you by the diet industry and sadly some of the fitness gurus.

In today’s video I help you to walk through the process of discovering what your motives are regarding weight loss and exercise and how you can make them work for you instead of against you.  🙂

Take a moment to watch the video.  You don’t want to miss this!

Have a happy and healthy week!

With Love,
Jennifer

Eating For Health Vs. Eating To Lose Weight

Eating For Health - Jennifer Ledford - Certified Personal Trainer & Healthy Lifestyle Coach - ledford0416-7616

A couple of weeks ago I had a nasty bout with the stomach flu.  I was having trouble keeping food down so I did a quick search on the Internet to find out what foods would be best for my poor stomach.  The medical sites were recommending applesauce, broth,  lots of clear fluids, and processed starches like white rice and white bread (the stuff that you can roll into a tiny ball).

We usually keep white Basmati rice in our pantry and thank God for our neighbor Farmer Frank’s homemade applesauce that I pulled out of the freezer. The one thing I did not have was any white bread.

Our household is normally full of whole foods and foods that are minimally processed.  It became quite obvious to me that my normal diet of super healthy and minimally processed food was not going to help me in this situation.  I was staring at a fridge full of food that was of  little use to me and I was hungry and needed energy.

I sent an S.O.S. text out to my husband to pick up white bread on his way home from work.  When he arrived I eagerly toasted the bread and ate it with non fat turkey meat since I was seriously lacking protein in my diet.  I don’t usually recommend the no fat thing but that was another problem nutrient for my gut.  My husband decided to toast up a piece for himself and put peanut butter and honey on it because in his words “I haven’t had sliced white bread in ages.”  He’s right.  It’s like an endangered species at our house.

What’s important to note here is that a food  that most diets on the market today list as “forbidden” was the food that really helped me.  Can you imagine if I was ultra religious about my diet and wouldn’t touch the white stuff?  It would have been a rough week.

Fortunately, most people will toss out their diet and eat whatever is necessary for survival when hungry or ill.  However, I have had clients report back to me that they have skipped carbs for an entire day because they did not have access to “good” carbs so they ate the sandwich and threw away the bread or chose the burger but threw away the bun.  Anything to avoid those “bad” carbs, right?  While I understand the logic, and maybe even the fear, the answer is no.

It is always better to eat the bun than to skip it because it’s “white” bread.  When you deny your body carbohydrates, you are starving your brain and potentially harming your metabolism.  If you are  skipping gluten for health reasons I recommend searching for a place that serves gluten-free carbs.  Mexican food is a great option if you can find it.  Otherwise Asian food is another possible choice if you skip the sauces.  I recommend asking if you’re not sure.

I’m not suggesting that you trade in your sprouted toast, whole wheat pasta, or quinoa for processed white starches.  There are good health-related reasons to eat whole grains instead of white processed food and I’m already back to my normal diet.  Whole grains offer more fiber, they can help stabilize blood sugar, curb cravings, and they keep you full longer. I am, however,  suggesting that you avoid being guilted into the diet trap and understand the motive behind your food choices.  There’s usually a difference between eating for health versus eating to lose weight.

The difference between eating for health versus eating to lose weight

Eating for long term health and weight loss is about  eating to fuel your body properly, building a strong immune system, having good energy,  maintaining muscle mass, and cutting back on the things that in excess are not good for you.  One of the byproducts of a consistent healthy diet combined with appropriate portion sizes is weight loss.  On the other hand, if the only goal is to be skinny, disordered eating  (like eliminating carbs entirely) can occur which often times cuts out important nutrients and good health can fall to the wayside.

It’s also a good idea to avoid labeling foods as “good” or “bad.”  There are foods that are better than others and for health reasons some that I like to avoid.  However, it’s next to impossible to maintain a perfectly “clean” diet and when we start labeling foods as good or bad it can really mess with you psychologically.  You should never feel afraid or guilty to eat a sandwich made with white bread when you are stuck in the airport or on a long car trip.  Unless, of course, you are strictly gluten-free, then I recommend a bag of potato chips if that’s the only carb you can find.

The moral of this story is white bread that you can roll into a tiny ball tastes great with blueberry jam.  Just kidding! 🙂

In all seriousness, food is fuel.  Some foods fuel you better than others and that is personal.   It’s important to take care of your body.  It’s also important to limit stress in your life and to have some fun.  Life is short.  You shouldn’t have to spend most of your day thinking about food.  Focus on being healthy first and let weight loss be one of the benefits.

Shared with much love,
Jennifer Ledford

Why I’m No Longer Interested In Being A Size Two

Jennifer Ledford Photo Shoot 2016 - Ledford0416-7591 - self image

We’ve recently been working on updating the photos for my website.  The photo above is a sneak peek of some of the lifestyle photos we’ll be sharing on it and on social media. It’s such an exciting time to be in fitness and I’m really enjoying the process of bringing personal training and coaching to the internet.

Life is interesting.  Sometimes new things can dredge up old things that you would rather leave behind.  Scheduling this recent photo shoot briefly dug up some old self image issues that I have worked hard to overcome.  I actually began to think about “dieting” for the photos.  I haven’t dieted in years!

While there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look toned and in shape, I knew in my  heart that if I did anything other than what I teach, the photos would not have been authentic.  I would have joined the ranks of yet another fitness professional promoting one idea on the outside while secretly living a restrictive life behind the scenes.

How To Not Allow Self Image Issues To Win

Yes, it’s true.  The self image issues that  I work so hard to help others overcome tried to rear their ugly head and bite me in the butt!  Thankfully I didn’t allow them to win.

Rather than allow myself to fall for the diet trap I used this moment to get really solid on how I want my life to look when it comes to health and fitness.  Over the years I’ve allowed myself to gain a healthy amount of weight because there was a time in my life when I was “too skinny” for my body type.  On the outside people thought I looked healthy but in reality I was doing unhealthy things to remain a size two.  Thankfully, that’s no longer the case.

I’m forty six years old.  I have no interest in trying to be twenty five again.  What I want is to look great at forty six.   At this stage of my life I’m way more interested in creating a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle than I am in being unnaturally skinny.  I’m committed to things like eating well, exercising daily, strength training three times per week, drinking liquid calories in moderation, drinking plenty of water, getting  enough sleep, laughing a lot, and creating special memories.

Please understand, I will always pay attention to my weight and if I notice the scale is going in the wrong direction I will take a look at what might be the cause and make adjustments.  However, I have also decided that I’m not going to be a slave to that one pair of jeans from ten years ago that a part of society thinks I should still be able to fit into.  There is nothing wrong with setting goals to be able to fit into your old clothes without having to do an aerobic workout to get them on, but it should never be at the cost of your physical and emotional health.

The well-known phrase “bodies come in all shapes and sizes” is not a cliche.  It’s a true statement.  When you choose to maintain a weight that’s appropriate for you and you can sustain it without deprivation or emotional heartache you are walking in freedom.  The number on the scale is personal.  There is no one size fits all when it comes to health and fitness.

I’m not suggesting you give up on vigorous exercise or paying attention to things like portion sizes and fueling your body properly.  What I’m talking about is setting manageable goals that are appropriate for the season you are currently in, your physical capabilities, and how you want to live your life.

Over the years I’ve had the opportunity to help clients achieve weight loss that is sustainable while contributing positively to their physical and emotional health.  The guidelines and formulas may be similar, however their personal eating plans and exercise routines are individually unique to them.

My desire for anyone reading this article is that you would be so comfortable and confident in your own skin that you would make health your primary focus and that weight loss would be one of the many benefits.  You’ll still have to work for it.  Our bodies were designed to move and it’s important to exercise.  It’s also important to practice self control when it comes to what we put in our bodies.

From time to time people of all shapes and sizes will experience self image issues.  That includes thin people.  Negative thoughts and relentless marketing can come at us from all directions.  The good news is just because you have a thought does not mean it’s your own.  If the negative voices start whispering “you’re not good enough” or “you’d be happier if you just looked like him or her on the cover of the magazine,” stay strong.  Remind yourself that you are in this for health, not just a photo shoot.

Maintaining a healthy self image for life is entirely doable.  In the beginning it takes practice.  Over time, the more you begin to love and accept yourself for who God designed you to be, the easier it becomes.  I encourage you to explore and discover exactly who that is.  It’s a lifelong process and it’s totally worth it.  I promise!

Here’s to a happy and healthy week!

Shared with love,
Jennifer